Breaking away from my parents, who have always provided for me in so many ways, did not mean moving out or becoming financially independent when I first started at De Anza College.

It meant taking my time at college more seriously and knowing that I was putting their money to good use. While this may not be the traditional way people define independence, it was for me.

I come from a Middle Eastern and European household where often times parents will support their children until marriage, which includes putting them through school without having to pay for it on their own.

I was so excited to attend community college straight out of high school, but like many new college students I switched up my major multiple times and realized I had no idea what I was actually doing.

My first two years of college were honestly a waste. I did take certain courses that I would have needed eventually, but I also spent time taking random classes just because I could.

During my third year of college, I was lucky enough to meet some amazing counselors who helped me create an education plan to guide me in the right direction towards deciding my major.

Once I learned exactly what courses to take in order to reach my goals, I had an entirely different outlook on college and I actually went to school feeling like I had purpose being there.

It improved my relationship with my parents because instead of avoiding their questions about school, I actually felt confident about my academics and proud to be on a productive path.

I used to feel guilty making my parents pay for my education because I secretly knew I had no idea what I was doing even though I put them under the impression that I did. It felt deceitful and wasteful.

But I am on a completely different path now and I am putting myself in the position to succeed, which is really all my parents want for me in the end