Ending a relationship is hard on a couple, but the impact of a Valentines Days breakup may be the harshest of all.

Lover’s can find many reasons to end a relationship; the most common are a lack of trust, it wasn’t serious, or infidelity. Timing to ending it is just as vital, as the moment would determine the emotional impact it will have on the other person; to put it short and sweet, Valentines Day is not the best time to do it.

Granted, it’s always best to do it before or after the holiday. But if you just can’t wait any longer, there are ways to go about it.

The easiest, and most pathetic, way of ending a relationship on Valentines Day would be using a text message or My Space. This would be a quick breakup for you where you can avoid looking at their heart broken faces.

An anonymous student gives a piece of creative advice: draw a picture of two people breaking up with a note and place it in a box of chocolates. Give him or her the box of chocolates on Valentines Day, but before she opens the box, casually mention you forgot something in your car and drive off as fast as you can.

Or maybe you have a death wish and you want to take the straight and narrow road of confronting them face to face. Some De Anza students have advice for people like you too.

Joe Ariente, an architect major, says it’s best to do it early in the day, in order to avoid raising her hopes up and ruining her evening. Reasonably, this would give both people the opportunity to find another date and still have an at least a quasi-romantic Valentines Day.

Kristina Wiedemann, a business finance major, gives her best advice. Wiedemann says she would approach her boyfriend with the new guy at her side and announce “(Insert the now ex-boyfriends name), this is my Valentines date, but can you and I still be friends?”

The final and perhaps most reasonable piece of advice comes fro De Anza student Emily Overholser, who says she would break up the relationship after dinner and explain in detail why she wants to end it. This allows him to know what went wrong, and maybe at the same time not hurt him emotionally.

Or maybe take the high road and wait till at least the day after to break up. You could easily ruin Valentines Day for that person forever if you use that day to dash their hopes and dreams. “Its disrespectful,” says Kristina Wiedemann, who plans to celebrate her one-year anniversary with her boyfriend on Valentines Days. You shouldn’t break up with some one on a holiday or an important event like a birthday or anniversary.” In any case, it’s generally agreed, breaking up is hard to do, and doing it on Valentines Day is nothing short of scandalous.