Dear Kelsey,
So, I’ve only had one relationship and don’t really know what my
orientation is. Lately I’ve been thinking about girls more and more and how nice it would be to get involved with one. The problem is, that I’m HORRIFIED about approaching a girl. They are so much more intimidating than guys. How do I go about getting romantic with a girl?
Sincerely,
“Nervous and intimidated”
My dearest Nervous,
Getting romantic with a girl is a scary thought isn’t it? I remember thinking the same thing my sophomore year of high school when my first same-sex crush developed. It was on a beautiful rockabilly girl named Monica. I thought she was perfect, sexy, smart, and from what I remember, everything I could ever want in a significant other. But boy oh boy (no pun intended) was I scared to death to talk to her. First of all I knew she had a boyfriend. I could handle that; I have done some serious home-wrecking in my day. Second, I knew she liked girls. This single fact made it so hard to approach her. I don’t know if the female you are interested in is out of the closet. Regardless, I think these steps might help you in your pursuit of the finer species:
Take advantage of being a girl! We are typically very emotional creatures by nature and often put ourselves in intimate situations with our girlfriends. We go shopping together, have sleepovers, do each other’s hair, cry on each other’s shoulders, take long road trips together, and things of this nature. Use situations such as these to get close to the girl you have your sights on! Don’t totally go overboard and try to make out with her after you invite her to a platonic movie night at your pad. But by all means, get cozy with her if she is on the edge of her seat during a late night screening of Paranormal Activity 2.
Also, take advantage of simply not being a male. When people ask me why I am attracted to females, 75 percent of the time my answer is, “Because they aren’t men.” This is probably the best card you have in your deck, girlfriend. As women, we know that women like to be heard. As women we know how to women like to get intimate. As women we know that women feel the need for a mutual respect. We know all of these things, and this gives you an automatic head start in the gay dating scene, my dear Nervous.
Also, did I mention that I am
single?
With love,
Kelsey Lynne
